Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Siti's Folks Art


Siti's passion for water color painting and arts was put on hold for many-many years due to her domestic requirements as a wife and mother (well, what more can you say when she is the best wife and the best mother for my kids). When the kids are now slightly "independent" and the husband is "less demanding" (hehehe..am I?) she started to practice her long lost rusty skills in painting & brushing. She decided to re-acquire the skills by attending weekend homeclass while I do the babysit (ok not really). Well, see by yourself her by-products from the slideshow I attached on the page. Hmm...she definitely got the talent and skills....cayalah!



Monday, May 5, 2008

Emotionalism Has No Place in Religion

by Haron Yahya

It is true that Allah (God) may test a person in this world with certain difficulties and worries. However, the believer does not give in to melancholy and pessimism when he is faced with such anxieties; he does not react emotionally. He knows that Allah is trying him to see how he will behave in difficulty, and that the solution is not to turn to weeping or sorrowful regret. The solution lies in seeking help from Allah, "Who responds to the oppressed when they call on Him and removes their distress" (Qur'an, 27:62), relying only on Him, and in being certain that Allah will hear his prayers and grant his requests. This is the promise of Allah to His servants:

Yes, the friends of Allah will feel no fear and will know no sorrow: those who believe and have done their duty, there is good news for them in the life of the world and in the hereafter. There is no changing the words of Allah. That is the great victory! (Surah Yunus: 62-64)

Moreover, Allah creates such trying moments of anxiety and difficulty for a very special reason. When someone looks with the eyes of faith, and sees the reasons behind all the beauty that Allah has created, he will be moved to compassion, and his contentment will increase. Therefore, submission to Allah brings a sense of calm to the spirit, and allows one to live with peace of mind.
Emotionalism, on the other hand, completely alienates people from the awareness of being in Allah's hands, and leads them to react to situations with excessive pleasure, or exaggerated pain and sorrow. Allah explains in the Qu'ran the wavering of such people between hopelessness and arrogance, and the difference between them and believers:

If We let man taste mercy from Us, and then take it away from him, he is despairing, ungrateful; but if We let him taste blessings after hardship has afflicted him, he says, "My troubles have gone away," and he is overjoyed, boastful except for those who are steadfast and do right actions. They will receive forgiveness and a large reward. (Surah Hud: 9-11)

Emotionalism shows itself most often in women as sadness, pessimism, weeping and whinniness, while in men it appears generally as anger, irascibility, and aggression. For example, when an emotional man sees that his place in a parking garage has been taken by someone else, he will shout and kick the intruding car. Or, if someone bumps into him on the sidewalk by mistake, he will easily lose his temper. Or, if his son or daughter left the house and forgot the key inside, if a waiter is late bringing the bill, if a secretary makes him wait on telephone, or if he is irritated by traffic, he will say the first thing that comes to his mind. Confronted with problems that a rational person could deal with easily, even without occupying his mind with the hundreds of details involved, an emotional person would react in an unnecessarily exaggerated manner. And, most of the time, he merely harms himself and ends up humiliated.

Emotionalism in men takes the form of anger and irascibility, and is often regarded as the quality of a "tough-guy" or "macho." This psychology is merely an amalgam of anger and romanticism, while most of those affected by it are unbalanced, and have a tendency to lose their temper, or "go off the handle." As a result of a moment of rashness, they may hurt or injure someone, or even kill; their victim could easily be a total stranger. Pages of newspapers are often filled with the crimes and offences committed by this type of personality. An evening that might have begun pleasantly could suddenly come to an end when an emotional man becomes irritated and hits a friend or someone near him. Walking in the street he may pull out a knife and stab some unknown person who "looked at him sideways." For that one minute, he may give in to his passions, and then end up spending the rest of his life in prison. More importantly, if he kills, or otherwise harms someone, without just cause, he will have committed a grave sin in the sight of Allah.

Irascible emotionalism in a person is a potential danger that can erupt out at any time, and have very serious repercussions. An emotional person may become angry if someone makes a wrong move in traffic, or if someone he does not know looks at him in such a way as to make him uncomfortable, or because of some simple misunderstanding, then act in such a way as to only bring upon himself all sorts of trouble and pain.

A clear example of the unreasonableness that emotionalism gives rise to can be seen in the brutish behaviour of some fans after a football match. They assault people they do not know, and nearly kill them with meat cleavers, knives and clubs. Their minds and consciences are blinded by the satanic weapon of emotionalism, truly a grave plague on society. But, Allah commands human beings to avoid Satan, to establish peace and security, not anger and conflict.

You who believe! Enter absolutely into peace (Islam). Do not follow in the footsteps of Satan. He is an outright enemy to you. (Surat al-Baqara: 208)

The Prophet Mohammed also preached serenity among the believers, saying "The strong is not the one who overcomes the people with his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger."

Here, it is necessary to distinguish between sentimentality and rationality. Anger and hate felt in response to acts of cruelty and evil make a person more sensitive to and aware of justice, peace and goodness, and motivate him to strive for the eradication of that cruelty and evil, for its prevention, and for the protection of the rights of the weak and the innocent. If the sense of justice that Allah gave to humanity is not controlled by the will and wisdom, it can be diverted from its true purpose, and flare up against the fans of an opposing sports club. People who do not have a strong will and wisdom cannot restrain their emotions, and can be led from the true path into whatever direction satan may desire. In another verse, Allah warns humanity against Satan:

You who believe! Do not follow in the footsteps of satan. Anyone who follows in Satan's footsteps should know that he commands indecency and wrongdoing. Were it not for Allah's favour to you and His mercy, not one of you would ever have been purified. But Allah purifies whoever He wills. Allah is All-Hearing, All-Knowing. (Surat an-Nur:21)

(For further reading, see Romanticism: A Weapon of Satan by Harun Yahya)

Sunday, May 4, 2008

3D2N in Genting

We were not sure what to do during last school holidays and
we thought it would be fun to make an excursion to nearby tourist spot or holiday destination and come back on the same day. Siti's favorite has always been a hill resort and her hill resort is synonymous with Cameron Highland. Genting Highland? Nay.....never in her dictionary & mine too. The kids love to explore new places regardless where the place is. The next best alternative to Cameron Highland is Bukit Tinggi, but due to the recent tremor experienced, we think it wasn't a good choice. I told Siti & kids lets take on the wheels and see where they'll bring us. So we pack enough for one night and off we go.













Guess what? We end up staying in Genting for 3 Days & 2 Nights, not for the Theme Park but for the cool weather we had.

It has been laborious....until the Labour Day

We agreed to allow significant gap in-between when we want to have baby for health and emotional reasons. I believe woman should be allowed to recover from the trauma of giving birth (my first experience in labor room to receive Irfan tells all). In addition, we want our babies to grow with sufficient love as a baby (like get to breast feed, cuddle, sleep in the baby cot, play with food etc etc) for a significant amount of time. And we manage it very well where Irfan came in 1995, Sarah in 1999 and Muneerah in 2003, until we planned for the fourth baby. Our target is for the 4th. to come in 2007 and we thought we planned it very well. It was such dramatic and we thought we can do it again for the 4th. time without much challenge. We were all wrong, especially when age is catching up. We are definitely in a hurry because Siti will turn 40 in 2008. I don't want to resort to any medication or expert advise as yet, although Siti insist. She has been asking for Allah's blessing in her prayer without fail. She has been implicitly trying to make herself more "fertile"?! But with expert advise from the internet and doctor friends of course.

And it was the morning on the 1st. May that she showed me the pregnacy test she bought from the Guardian that shows positive result! I was like "betul ke ni...??!!". Later in a day she did another test...and now I "jump" in jubilation and "yelled" on top of my lung....MY WIFE IS PREGNANT!!!!

Alhamdullillah to All Mighty Allah swt.

PRU12...Aku berkongsi sejarah dengan Negara ku Malaysia

I turned 21 while I was studying in the US and at that time I care less about my constitutional right as a voter. And I didn't even care if my IC/name was used for "phantom voter" - if so exist? I came back in Oct 1990 right after the 8th. General Election, if I'm not mistaken, and with much anticipated result that BN won without much hassle. Came 1995 General Election, I was again don't see BN can be troubled by weak opposition. And you know what, I was again failed to fulfill my constitutional right as a voter. As we all know BN won hands down - ok they failed to capture the so-called "Serambi Mekah" state, so what? they still continue to rule the nation. Came 1998 - the historic Anwar saga that lead to Reformasi Movement storm into political landscape. The 10th. General Election in 1999 see the toughest hurdle the National Front had to overcome after the infamous sacking of Anwar by Tun Dr. Mahathir. It was also claimed to be as the "dirtiest" election ever in the new era that saw revelations of unfair practices in conducting the election. Much hope was given to the opposition after the Barisan Alternative was formed to fight one-on-one with the National Front. Kelantan & Terengganu fall to the opposition which saw votes for BN had deteriorated. However, learning from 1999 election nightmare, BN came back in the 11th General Election in 2004 to have a landslide victory, re-capture Terengganu and although they can't form the state government in Kelantan, they manage to deny the opposition (PAS) the 2/3 majority. All passed GE I failed to vote, although I almost did in 1999 & 2004.

PRU12 saya telah berazam untuk pergi mengundi dan dengan isu-isu semasa yang saya nampak begitu sarat dn tenat, buat pertama kalinya saya telah berjaya membuang undi untuk kali pertamanya seumur hidup saya dan saya berasa amat lega. Saya juga berasa amat bangga sebagai seorang rakyat Malaysia!

For details of Malaysian GE, see link below.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elections_in_Malaysia

Saturday, May 3, 2008

50th. Merdeka Celebration that hardly come by

It was held last year in September 2007 to commomerate our 50th Merdeka Celebration and it was done very successfully.....I am very proud of it not because its my brainchild, but the esprit de corp that we gained from organizing such event as a community. Yes, I got praises for initiating such a big event and for leading such a well-organized event, but again I must stressed that the people with whom I worked with to make this event successful is what matters. Till today people speak highly of the event and often become point of reference to organize any subsequent event.

But whether this year similar event can be held....mmmm I doubt it! Last month I called few people to discuss the matter and no one doesn't seem want to commit and take the lead. I was so dissappointed. I thought I have laid the foundation for them to move on..sadly its all my wishful thinking. Seems that I have to do it all over again...do I want to? Well, in Allah we trust.